In the Summer of 2011, I was living in NYC and getting divorced, after 7 years of marriage.

I had baby who had just turned one. I had been with his father for 11 years. I was 30 years old, living in Brooklyn with a new job in Manhattan. I was terrified and lost.

A few months after, I was terrified and lost plus, I was looking forward to start dating. 

When you haven't been single since the 1990's and you've never seen an online dating site - the dating world can seem incredibly intimidating. 

I had no idea what I was doing when it comes to dating. I later learned, no one really does. It's not something you figure out with your head alone. 

It would be nine years later - mid-pandemic on a first date that was mostly masked and socially distant - that I would reconnect with a friend and have that bloom into the committed partnership I have today. The one I had always wanted. 

This story is about the nine years in...

Every December, I share my lessons for the year. 

And then, there's 2020.

On the year that brought us a global pandemic, a massive opportunity to shift in consciousness (and also brought me my 40th birthday), the lessons went deeper than they ever have.

Here we go: 

• I am finally OK with others' discomfort, when it is a result of my authenticity. For my entire life I have molded how I show up - particularly around some people close to me - to keep the peace, to not ruffle feathers. Well, that's done. I'm going to be who I am always. I wish you luck with your discomfort. 
• I am owning my full power, more than ever before. I recognize the irony here. I spend my days supporting women to own their power. This year I recognized all the places I was still holding back from fully owning and expressing it -  using burnout and overwhelm as excuses to not create what I really wanted. I finally got real. I started living as my future...