Healing Your Relationship to Work ❤️‍🩹

Indulge with me for a moment in this scenario...

Imagine you wake up in the morning, you take three deep breaths and the first thing you feel is gratitude. You get ready for your day, connect with your people, have breakfast.

Then - you sit with your email and the work tasks for the day. You are able to devote present, consistent, potent attention to your work in the dedicated time you have for it. You feel in flow. You seek support where you need it. You are more present, creative and mindful with your activities.

Some days are easier than others - and you are learning to shut work off, as it reflects your priorities and boundaries. Your health is improving, the connections with your people are more solid, you feel more aligned with what matters to you. You have been choosing to trust that your abundance is inherent. As you follow your inspired action things fall into place. You are seeing real results without driving yourself mad. You allow the spiritual rewiring to unfold within you.

Now…a moment for your honest reaction:

Does this life feel real? Possible?

Does it feel within your reach?

If there’s a part of you that finds the possibility of this life hard to believe - you are not alone.

So many of us are conditioned to understand work as a never ending sacrifice. It creates a need to give more and more to work. It never feels like enough, and the cost often isn’t clear until later.

We convince ourselves that this is what “adulting” and success looks like and that’s that.

Here are some signs that you may want to take deeper look at your relationship to work:

• You (frequently or always) feel a sense of urgency and obligation about work

• There’s a restlessness in the demand to produce

• You notice work is coming at a cost: it could be your relationships, your self care, your health

• Your vibrancy, passion, excitement for your work is dimmed or gone

The thing is, this part of you fueling you to work this way? We can honor it. It has served you!

It has built in you the badass, reliable, master of your craft that you are.

And chances are that if you’re reading these words - there’s a little window of possibility in you that may be willing to at least consider doing things differently.

Yes?

This isn’t about becoming a monk and and giving up life as you know it.

The truth is that leaning just a little bit more in the direction of trust, and prioritizing you & your Spirit can transform your entire life.

And you don’t have to sacrifice success.

On the contrary.

You may however be redefining success for yourself.

Imagine the version of you that will show up to all aspects of your life when you:

• Have a deep, soul-level knowing of your worth - regardless of the work you are doing or how much you are producing

• Have practiced and are improving being in the moment - whether you are sitting with a friend or planning a work project

• Are setting boundaries that reflect your priorities and find that people around you are aligning and respecting them

• Are nurturing your creativity in ways that make you feel alive, and you see it ripple into your work and your whole life possibilities

• Are finding that suddenly there is time to take real care of yourself. What?! Yay!

As an experiment, what if you leaned into this possibility?

I invite you to try it for one week, and take note of your results. Here are some ideas you can start incorporating into your days right away to lean into more trust and honor your worth, and create a healthier relationship with work:

Prioritize Quiet Time in Nature:

Find a park nearby and schedule regular walks here. Make it intentional to have zero distractions. Allow yourself to become comfortable with your own quiet company, and allow nature to work her healing magic in you.

Remove Notifications:

Remove all notifications from your phone or other devices that aren’t 100% necessary. Allow yourself to be present where you are. Keep your phone away from your reach when you’d like extra focus.

Make Time for What Makes You Happy:

When you overcommit to work, you neglect other parts of your life that allow you to enjoy the full, rich life you desire. Make a list of 3-5 things that make you happy. Choose at least two to start, and set up a plan to incorporate them into your life. Have a friend hold you accountable. Sign up for a community or a class. Book time on your calendar and treat it as sacred time to come back to you.

Set a “Worry Alarm”:

I learned about this exercise in a course I took many years ago and I loved it. Set a recurring, daily alarm time when you will “worry”. Yes, you read that right. Let’s say 5pm. If you find yourself worrying at 10am or 3pm - you can remind yourself that your worry time isn’t until 5pm. At 5pm when that alarm rings, I hope the silliness and fruitlessness of worrying makes you laugh out loud, and realize that you can let it go.

For you, these exercises may be a place to begin, or they may be an invitation to deepen an existing intention of presence and trust with your work.

What will this ultimately look like for you and what will it awaken in you? That’s for your soul journey to unfold.

I can promise you that it gets easier, as you continue to see evidence of things falling into place abundantly and powerfully - without sacrificing yourself.

What will it cost you? It will cost the version of you who is committed to thinking that this endless pressure is the only way to exist in this world.

It will bring you deeper into peace, presence, and worthiness in ways that I hope you take with you for the rest of your life.

✍🏻 I would love to hear from you!

How has your relationship to work evolved over the years? Is there something you'd like to shift going forward? Which of these ideas would you like to try? I can't wait to chat!